The Analogy Thesis

MBW and I were discussing about acquired disability tonight, comparing it to inherited disability with regards of which is harder to come to terms with, psychologically speaking.  Would you, if you acquired a disability, hate knowing what you were now missing out on or if you had a disability from birth, would you lament what you have never had in the first place?

I would like to offer the following:

Imagine your favourite chocolate bar in the world.  Now imagine there is only one bar of it.  What would you prefer: One taste of that bar and know you can never have it again, or never taste it and not know what you missed out on?

Please comment and tell me.  It would be interesting to know, especially from those with disabilities.

2 thoughts on “The Analogy Thesis

  1. I do have an inheritied disability, but I was 15 when the problems started, but was pretty much healthy before that. It came on quite suddenly, with no accident, illness, or whatever. The pain and fatigue got worse and worse, and I constantly developed new symptoms.

    I think perhaps the type of disability depends on how well you cope. For example if you’re born without an arm, you would probably adjust well as you’ve never had one so just get on with it. However, if you’re born with a very painful condition – I’m not sure you ever really adjust to pain as such.

    I do know what life was like when I could walk properly and work full time, so it’s quite difficult seeing more of that slip away day by day. I don’t get to go out dancing all night with friends, or do stuff I’d always planned too.

  2. I’ve only suffered from a pain related disabling condition for 3 1/2 years but before that I was a soldier in the army. So I went from more active than the average person to being assessed for my first wheelchair last week.

    If I hadn’t known what it was like to be that active I wouldn’t know now how to be more active. Although it is a different type of active I value the importance of having gone through the experience.

    For those that don’t go through the experience of being more active I think they grow up with a different view of disability. They don’t go through the stage of depression and wanting the ability back but they have to strive harder to get it in the first place.

    Although for myself I’m glad I had that experience as I can now accept how my ability is different now without wondering about what ifs. I don’t have what ifs because when I had the chance I didn’t and now I’ve got a different chance and I know to say; definitely yes!

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